Update on the disaster

Here is what has happened since my last post:

I had left my brother and SIL's house at a little after 7pm on Wednesday. I wrote my last post at a little past 8pm. At that time my brother and SIL were going to continue marriage counseling and my brother was going to seek therapy as well. What changed in 2 1/2 hours, I don't know but B called at 9:30 to say that my SIL was leaving. She was packing a few things for her and her daughter and going to stay at her parents. I was floored. I asked B to try and he said he could not. What the heck????? How can they go from "we'll try" to "there's no hope" in a couple of hours? I just don't get it.

My SIL called me Thursday morning as I was heading into work. At that time she was going to retain a lawyer. I talked her down from that. I asked her to give him a few days, give my mom and I a chance to try to talk to him.

My brother called Thursday night. He seemed just fine. He was relaxed and calm and spoke rationally. He said he just could not live with his wife.

Back and forth I have talked to both of them. Yesterday morning my brother said he has not felt so good in almost four years. He said she was driving him crazy and Wednesday night he definitely sounded crazy. But to not even try? My SIL has a daughter from a previous relationship who my whole family has accepted as my brother's own. She is, for all intents and purposes, our niece. And she feels the same about us. She cried on her grandma's shoulder Wednesday night about loosing all of us. She asked my brother why he does not love them any more. He told her he loved them both but he could not live with her mother any more. I lost it when her grandma told me that.

What a disaster!! I am praying for a positive outcome but I just don't see how it's possible. I told my niece she'll always be my niece. I told my SIL she'll always be my sister. I hate the thought of them not being in my life!


On a positive note, my hubby and I look at each other and ask how we got so lucky. We love each other to death. We are each other's best friends. We can spend hours and hours together and still not run out of things to talk about. How lucky am I? We've had our challenges, mostly health issues for me, but nothing has ever rocked our relationship. I pray nothing ever will.